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Relationship advice from Netflix series YOU

Updated: Sep 14, 2020

Hello there, welcome to yet another blog post. If you're tuning in for the first time let me take the opportunity to personally thank you for giving us a read. If this is your second time here, welcome back it is my absolute pleasure to have you here.

Now, to the meat of the matter.

If you haven't yet gotten the gist, today's blog post will be a commentary on the recently aired season 2 of the Netflix series adapted from the Caroline Kepnes novel "YOU". Please don't tell me you don't know what YOU is, or you didn't know it was a book first. If I lost you in any of my two previous statements, please stop reading IMMEDIATELY and go do your research because this post will have tons of spoilers.

For those of you who just completely ignored my previous statement and are unfamiliar with YOU but still continue to read, let me just say that you were forewarned about the spoilers. With that said, I'll be nice enough to establish the background story behind YOU so you won't be completely lost by what I am about to say.

The series YOU initially aired on Netflix in 2018. It features as its main subject, a bookstore manager who falls in love with a girl seemingly at first sight - and ends up stalking her to orchestrate the perfect "coincidental" meet ups, which later kick start a more intimate relationship between the two (creepy, right?).

Anyway, throughout season 1 there are numerous, what I like to call, relationship red flag moments that, having been overlooked by Joe's love interest Beck, lead to her demise at the end of season 1. Just at the turn of the New Year, Netflix released season 2 of the series and surprisingly it was even more suspense filled than season 1 though thankfully or maybe not so thankfully, depends on whose perspective you're viewing from, Joe's love interest did not die.

I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that relationships and people are a funny thing. Sometimes irrespective of how pure we think our intentions are, our actions may still end up leaving the person we love most feeling hurt or in the case of YOU dead.

So here's my relationship takeaway advice from YOU. As a 20 something year old, many of us find ourselves wedged between a rock and a hard place. You either find yourself completely put off at the thought of entering yet another relationship with the almost inevitable possibility that you will end up getting hurt, or you are desperately craving companionship and physical intimacy, to fill a void that a parent never filled while growing up.

Regardless of whichever category you fall into, pay attention to the signs, if someone expresses interest in you and begins to exhibit traits such as Joe, Run!!!

Similarly, if you find yourself beginning to exhibit traits similar to that of Love or Joe (no judgement), GET HELP. It isn't fair for you to invade other people's lives and include them into your self created mess.

Now on an even more serious note, the world can be a dangerous place, when engaging in a new relationship, whether you met someone over the phone, in person, on a dating app or via a social networking site, you need to be on your A game at all times. Don't forget to trust your instincts, first impressions rarely ever lie. Delilah once told Joe that when she first met him, he behaved like someone who was trying very hard to not have any personality at all (hmmm, I wonder why?). In spite of this, Delilah decided to give Joe a second chance and look where that got her ( the GIF below perfectly describes how I was feeling towards Delilah)

Similarly, when someone shows interest in you, if you find yourself interested in pursuing any form of relationship with them, do your research. Ask them specific questions about their past/ upbringing, their family members, if they live in a new area, find out motives behind their move and most importantly, you MUST meet their friends (if they have no friends that's an instant relationship red flag!).

On the subject of friends, if you're dating someone, even before things start becoming serious between you and the person, introduce them to your friends. Similar to how our parents can usually see traits in our "friends" , that we can't see, our friends can also see traits in a prospective partner that we might not notice on our own.

Additionally, on the argument of social media, be very careful about the depth of information about yourself you give away, especially locations such as your home address. Joe was by no means an expert hacker, however with a simple Google search, he was able to find out everything he wanted to know about Beck, and some of the key details about Love's closest friends.

On the note of over sharing on social media and I figure a lot of people's opinions may differ on this but hear my argument out. We live in a very social media savy age, while it is understandable that various individuals may have their reasons why they hold or do not hold various social media accounts, personally, meeting someone my age who has zero social media accounts especially having watched YOU, stands out as an instant relationship red flag.

Don't get me wrong, I know social media isn't everything, but could it be that you have something to hide or are hiding from something or someone why you have zero social media accounts? (I may sound paranoid but honestly sometimes some real out of the box things happen to people and if you asked me they could have been avoided if we simply paid attention to earlier events that just didn't sit right with us).

As always thank you for reading. Don't forget to like, share, subscribe and comment down below. Looking forward to seeing you again next week.

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Juanique Tennant - Creative Writer and Blogger

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I'm Juanique better known as Jae T.

A 20something on a mission to impart as many Life Hacks, Career Development Tips, and Adulting Tricks, to young adults looking not just to survive but thrive as they navigate year 20something.

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